Hi Tie,
My life has been very blessed. I had an asthma attack at the age of six which left me paralyzed with a disease called Guillian-Barre' Syndrome. (Same disease my dear friend, Serge Payer had). My favourite sports memory of my dad's was, I was going through many tests growing up. I was at Sick Kids, just had spinal surgery and my dad was taking me for a check up with the dr. The dr was awesome. I asked my Dad, if I could go into this appointment alone, and he said "I'll be right here". I went to my apppointment and I asked the dr some serious questions. I had this illness, also now scoliosis surgery, and I wanted to know how normal I could have of life. I asked him if I could have children (I was nervous to say that in front of Dad because I was only 18 and figured Dad would never allow me out again!). The dr said, "children are not possible". I asked about clinics, Russia anything...I was willing to do anything to walk/be normal. This dr told me I could never have children and I felt deeply alone. Everything I went through, spinal taps, EMG's, therapy, all I wanted was to be a Mom. I wheeled out the Dr's office and I was very sad....that night the Leaf's were playing, and one of my favourite Windsor Spitfire's was there playing his first NHL game. Ernie Godden. Dad knew, that I needed uplifting, and he called and got tickets right away, and Ernie Godden scored his only NHL goal with the Toronto Maple Leafs that night. Dad was crying, I was crying, and we weren't quite sure why we were crying but it was like Dad really understood why I needed some questions answered. I also appreciate to this day, his understanding and love, why I needed to ask alone. My father was so respectful.
Well Tie, I am proud to say that I was blessed! Not once, not twice but almost four times. I had two beautiful boys, one who still plays travel hockey and is my advocate at arena's when they don't place the ramps correctly!, one who plays recreational hockey, and then I lost a child in pregnancy, and then I was blessed again, with a daughter, my figure skater. I never got the chance to skate, I became sick exactly one week before figure skating lessons. I still plan to try it, not sure how yet :)
My dad said "you can't always believe everything, you hear, you must have faith and trust in God". I did Tie, and not by choice, I am a single Mom, raising three on my own, who I love with all my heart. When other's doubted I could have children, it was proven wrong!
I am very close to my mom and my dad. But when I"m sick, or in pain, having tests etc, its my Dad who I say "can you come with me?", and quite often we talk about hockey, wheelchair sports (me) and kids! Dad not only taught me the game of hockey on a saturday night growing up, but he taught me to trust God when I had no one else to turn too.
I am also blessed because my Dad is the role model for my three children. And how lucky can I be Tie? How blessed my children are. They have the greatest Papa in the world. Father's day is also Grandpa's day tomorrow for us. We will celebrate a man who came to Canada with a dream, sailed over from Scotland and married his sweetheart who sailed over as well, 52 years ago, and four children later.
My dad is still my support and I his. Dad recently went through radiation and made it through just fine. I just found out I have to have two sugery's this summer and I immediately called Dad from the dr's office. He said," don't worry....I'll be there...".I know he will be, and I know that when I don't have strength, he'll be praying and telling me about what a fighter I have to be.....
Dad always promised me he would live till he's 99 and he's 77 on June 24/07. *next week*. I just keep praying Tie.....that Dad lives as long as possible, and I know when he passes, it will be one of the saddest days in our lives. No one can make up for the person that believes in you, has faith in you, you can call at 2am in the morning and still loves you when you change the station in the car. We are all guilty of that one....I wish you could meet him, he's a Leaf's fan and we have many yelling matches at the tv during hockey season (usually at the ref's for penalties against the Leafs).
One of the best things too.....Dad and I can be totally serious...but when we laugh....I think that the whole world laughs along side us. and I think laughter is medicine that this world needs......
Be blessed, thank you on behalf of a "former Sick Kids kid", and just keep loving your children like you do......and I know they will someday share all of your special moments like you have helped us all to do....God bless you for that...
With love from Windsor and Essex County, always a wishing I was a Princess,......Cinderella....xo
PS You are a blessing to many........Have a wonderful Father's day tomorrow....and please know how much you are loved by so many all over the world......